{"id":47,"date":"2006-06-24T16:29:11","date_gmt":"2006-06-24T14:29:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.sigmacore.net\/?p=47"},"modified":"2024-05-29T08:57:00","modified_gmt":"2024-05-29T08:57:00","slug":"neutralizatorul","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/simplitate.ro\/blog\/index.php\/2006\/06\/24\/neutralizatorul\/","title":{"rendered":"Neutralizatorul"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Originalul: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.youmeworks.com\/theneutralizer.html\">The neutralizer<\/a> de Adam Khan<\/p>\n<h2>Neutralizatorul<\/h2>\n<p>Care este primul lucru pe care \u00eel face\u0163i c\u00e2nd face\u0163i o pana sau c\u00e2nd arde\u0163i cina sau c\u00e2nd vine unul dintre copii cu nota 4? C\u00e2nd se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 ceva r\u0103u, spui ceva &#8211; \u0163ie \u00eensu\u0163i sau altcuiva. Dac\u0103 e\u015fti sup\u0103rat, g\u00e2nde\u015fti sau spui lucruri \u00eenc\u0103rcate emo\u0163ional \u015fi aceste lucruri intensific\u0103 sentimentele tale de sup\u0103rare.<\/p>\n<p>C\u00e2nd \u00ee\u0163i dai seama c\u0103 g\u00e2nde\u015fti sau spui ceva de genul \u201eE <em>groaznic<\/em>,\u201d po\u0163i s\u0103 schimbi exprimarea spre ceva mai pu\u0163in emo\u0163ional &#8211; de exemplu, \u201eE inconvenabil.\u201d Sesizeaz\u0103 c\u00e2t de diferite sunt cele dou\u0103 afirma\u0163ii din punct de vedere emo\u0163ional. \u00cencearc\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i spui fiecare din cele dou\u0103 afirma\u0163ii \u015fi verific\u0103 c\u00e2t de diferit este efectul lor.<\/p>\n<p>Pare a fi o schimbare simpl\u0103 \u015fi chiar este o schimbare simpl\u0103. Dar poate schimba problema dintr-o catastrof\u0103 \u00een ceva doar enervant, cel pu\u0163in \u00een modul cum o sim\u0163i.<\/p>\n<p>Comentariu \u00eenc\u0103rcat de emo\u0163ie nu te ajut\u0103. Chiar poate s\u0103 te jeneze in a face fa\u0163\u0103 situa\u0163iei \u00eentr-un mod ra\u0163ional. O propozi\u0163ie neutr\u0103 din punct de vedere emo\u0163ional cum ar fi \u201eAceasta este inconvenabil\u201d duce la un r\u0103spuns neutru din punct de vedere emo\u0163ional &#8211; cu alte cuvinte, un r\u0103spuns rezonabil \u015fi practic.<\/p>\n<p>\u00cencearc\u0103 s\u0103 devii neutru din punct de vedere emo\u0163ional atunci c\u00e2nd un r\u0103spuns \u00eenc\u0103rcat emo\u0163ional este contraproductiv. Sesizeaz\u0103 ce g\u00e2nde\u015fti \u015fi \u00eencerc\u0103 s\u0103 faci acela\u015fi comentariu bl\u00e2nd, ca \u015fi cum ar descrie un calculator situa\u0163ia \u00een loc s\u0103-l faci un comentariu \u00eenc\u0103rcat cu emo\u0163ie.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u00cen loc de \u201eO <em>ur\u0103sc<\/em>\u201d spune \u201eCe a f\u0103cut interfer\u0103 cu \u0163elurile mele\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u00cen loc de \u201eFANTASTIC!\u201d spus pe un ton amar, \u00eencearc\u0103 ceva de genul \u201e\u0102sta nu e un lucru prea bun\u201d spus pe un ton monoton.<\/li>\n<li>Schimb\u0103 \u201e#@*!#*#!!\u201d \u00een \u201eA\u015f fi preferat s\u0103 se \u00eent\u00e2mple altfel lucrurile.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>C\u00e2nd vorbe\u015fti cu altcineva, neutralitatea ta poate face ca cealalt\u0103 persoan\u0103 s\u0103 nu se supere \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i va p\u0103stra propria enervare la un minim.<\/li>\n<li>\u00cen loc s\u0103 te pl\u00e2ngi so\u0163iei \u201eM-am s\u0103turat de problemele cu ma\u015fina\u201d \u00eencearc\u0103 ceva de genul \u201eCred c\u0103 e timpul s\u0103 lu\u0103m o alt\u0103 ma\u015fin\u0103\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u00cen loc s\u0103 \u0163ipi la fiul t\u0103u adolescent \u201eM-am s\u0103turat de ce faci\u201d ce-ar fi dac\u0103 i-ai spune pe un ton neutru, lipsit de emo\u0163ie: \u201eTi-am spus de dou\u0103 ori s\u0103 nu mai faci lucrul respectiv. Data viitoare c\u00e2nd se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2i f\u0103r\u0103 televizor o s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Neutralizeaz\u0103 negativul. Este o tehnic\u0103 simpl\u0103, dar cu ceva exerci\u0163iu poate elimina gropile din drumul acesta pe care \u00eel numim <em>via\u0163\u0103<\/em>, f\u0103r\u0103 a interfera cu percep\u0163ia peisajului frumos din jur.<\/p>\n<p><center><br \/>\n<strong>Descrie-\u0163i situa\u0163iile sup\u0103r\u0103toare \u00een cuvinte neutre \u015fi lipsite de emo\u0163ie.<\/strong><br \/>\n<\/center><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Originalul: The neutralizer de Adam Khan Neutralizatorul Care este primul lucru pe care \u00eel face\u0163i c\u00e2nd face\u0163i o pana sau c\u00e2nd arde\u0163i cina sau c\u00e2nd vine unul dintre copii cu nota 4? C\u00e2nd se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 ceva r\u0103u, spui ceva &#8211; \u0163ie \u00eensu\u0163i sau altcuiva. Dac\u0103 e\u015fti sup\u0103rat, g\u00e2nde\u015fti sau spui lucruri \u00eenc\u0103rcate emo\u0163ional \u015fi aceste&hellip; <a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/simplitate.ro\/blog\/index.php\/2006\/06\/24\/neutralizatorul\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Neutralizatorul<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,4,10],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-47","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-adam-khan","category-dezvoltare-personala","category-traduceri","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/simplitate.ro\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/simplitate.ro\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/simplitate.ro\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/simplitate.ro\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/simplitate.ro\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=47"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/simplitate.ro\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":279,"href":"https:\/\/simplitate.ro\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47\/revisions\/279"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/simplitate.ro\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=47"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/simplitate.ro\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=47"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/simplitate.ro\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=47"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}